Cup of courage…

Last night I received this beautiful gift, and it was presented with this fantastic poem in song, by my 10-year-old niece.

Roses are Red

Violets are blue

dutch is sure sweet, and Trish so are you

I got you a mug that will keep you brave

I hope it becomes your Fav

Love Johanna


Today I took some time to reflect on what might look different in 2019 if I really do practice my brave in new spaces this year.

I found a few boxes of my favorite tea, and I plan to use my cup of courage as a tangible reminder to live brave each day.

Will my brave invite me to speak up or remain silent?

Will my brave invite me to show up in new spaces or give my heart permission to say no and stay home to reflect and grow in my own space?

Will my brave invite me to laugh more, cry more, struggle differently or celebrate differently?

Will my brave give me the confidence to move into new spaces or will my brave invite me to name my fear and move into it anyway?

What will my brave and courage grow in me in the coming days, weeks and months? Joahnna’s sweet gift and delightful presentation remind me how not so long ago, this child was timid and self-conscious. She has practiced some significant courage in the past months, and she is exercising some of her new found discoveries.

I am looking forward to drinking my tea, finding my courage, practicing my brave and letting this cup become my fav…

I am ready to discover some new things in my 50th year. I am grateful for the assurance that no matter our age or circumstances, the choice to grow is always within reach.

Maybe it isn’t brave and courage that resonates with your soul in this season of your life. There is also a Cup of Love, Cup of Peace, or Cup of Gratitude. I am pretty sure that one of the four might invite you to new spaces in the new year. Give it some thought and choose one that might become your fav.

How I wish we could visit together and I could hear all you hope for in the coming year. Stay tuned, and I will share with you as I discover just how this cup of courage will invite me to new adventures!


The gift of family

The other day someone said to me, why are you still single?

I was not sure how to answer that question. I replied with some version of my reasonably standard answer. I am open to a relationship and even willing to pursue something that comes my way. That being said, I do not feel the need to be married, and so I would consider a relationship a bonus to the vibrant life I already have.

I often wonder why is my heart mostly content as a single woman when I know others who long for nothing more than to be in a relationship? Occasionally I  take inventory of my heart and ensure that I am remaining open to new relationships, opportunities, lessons and struggles and friendships. I know for some of my single friends, the holidays can be very lonely.

Whenever I am seeking out the answer to my contentedness, I often land on the gift of my very supportive family. We are by no means perfect in how we interact or love one another, but we have figured some things out and do them well.

Christmas, Eve I was invited to celebrate Christmas with my sister’s family. For 18 years my Aunt Dot, my Mom and Dad and I have celebrated with Arlene and Dan and their kids. It is always a good time and each year I am amazed at how they have all grown up so good. There is something so sweet about the feeling of belonging.


Tonight I gathered with Suzi and Andy and family to celebrate Christmas. This also brings me such joy. It is always a sweet evening of laughter, conversation, generous giving, and gratitude. It was again a night where I left with a full heart, grateful that my sister and her family embrace me in ways that enhance my life and include me in spaces that as a single woman, I do not have on my own.

As this Christmas season comes to a close, I am very grateful for the spaces I share in the closeness of those family spaces. I am thankful for parents and sisters and brothers and nieces and nephews and aunts who embrace my single life and invite me in.

As I think about the bold person who asked me why I am still single, I would just add this, yes I am willing to consider a relationship, but I can confidently assure you, my heart is not lacking. I am beautifully loved by many, and perhaps best by those, I call my family!