I have had a good number of conversations about this tension lately. A tension that seems more significant during the holidays, but if we are honest, it may be a tension we feel even in our regular day-to-day. How well do we show up and live in the present?
What makes it hard to be present? It may be the pace at which we live, the multi-tasking that we pride ourselves in doing, or the sheer number of distractions we use to hide behind and maybe even avoid being present.
I am recovering from a total knee replacement and participating in physical therapy 2x a week. I enjoy the conversations that unfold as a group of strangers, different people with each given day, strike up conversations. Today’s conversation was about living present to ourselves and for our loved ones in the coming weeks. Just the conversation brings the commitment to the forefront. A few key questions to consider if you also want to commit to this with us:
Do you know the feeling when you are fully present, drifting from being present and absent in your presence? Pay attention to that in the coming days and become aware of this within yourself.
Do you know what helps to keep you present? Is it picking up a glass of water to hold (or a Diet Coke, a beer can, or a glass of wine?) Sometimes, getting up and walking around the room or engaging in a conversation can help to ground yourself in the present.
Do you know what causes you to drift from being present? For some, it is boredom, hunger, conflict, etc. There isn’t a wrong reason, but being aware of why helps to develop your strength to be present.
And so this blog feels like an invitation to join in being present this holiday season. Give the gift of what you have to offer and what you have to give back. Bring humor, kindness, insight, wisdom, tears, reflection, vision, and whatever else comes up in your shared moments.
I am confident that if you first bring your presence, you will enjoy sharing presents so much more! Developing this newfound skill during the holidays of 2023 will enhance so many of your relationships in 2024!
Believe in the goodness of your own heart,