The other day someone said to me, why are you still single?
I was not sure how to answer that question. I replied with some version of my reasonably standard answer. I am open to a relationship and even willing to pursue something that comes my way. That being said, I do not feel the need to be married, and so I would consider a relationship a bonus to the vibrant life I already have.
I often wonder why is my heart mostly content as a single woman when I know others who long for nothing more than to be in a relationship? Occasionally I take inventory of my heart and ensure that I am remaining open to new relationships, opportunities, lessons and struggles and friendships. I know for some of my single friends, the holidays can be very lonely.
Whenever I am seeking out the answer to my contentedness, I often land on the gift of my very supportive family. We are by no means perfect in how we interact or love one another, but we have figured some things out and do them well.
Christmas, Eve I was invited to celebrate Christmas with my sister’s family. For 18 years my Aunt Dot, my Mom and Dad and I have celebrated with Arlene and Dan and their kids. It is always a good time and each year I am amazed at how they have all grown up so good. There is something so sweet about the feeling of belonging.
Tonight I gathered with Suzi and Andy and family to celebrate Christmas. This also brings me such joy. It is always a sweet evening of laughter, conversation, generous giving, and gratitude. It was again a night where I left with a full heart, grateful that my sister and her family embrace me in ways that enhance my life and include me in spaces that as a single woman, I do not have on my own.
As this Christmas season comes to a close, I am very grateful for the spaces I share in the closeness of those family spaces. I am thankful for parents and sisters and brothers and nieces and nephews and aunts who embrace my single life and invite me in.
As I think about the bold person who asked me why I am still single, I would just add this, yes I am willing to consider a relationship, but I can confidently assure you, my heart is not lacking. I am beautifully loved by many, and perhaps best by those, I call my family!