small steps or giant leaps?

105 Best Inspirational Quotes and Positive Sayings for 2024So often, the giant leaps get the attention and praise in our communities. I imagine we have all been caught up in the praise of the people who tend to leap! But what about the faithful ones who make the small steps of change daily?

Is there someone who comes to mind when you think about small steps that bring about lasting change? Have you been a faithful small-step change agent?

When I think of small-step change agents, I think of people who have developed self-discipline and put it into practice. I admire these people. I wonder what kind of person you are. I have learned to celebrate how I bring about lasting change, even if it is different from what is named here. But I have also learned to marvel at and appreciate those who bring about lasting change differently than I do. It is good to grow and find deep appreciation and gratitude for others. Take time to affirm someone today who is different from you. ❤️trish

 

Preparing to die is hard work

Today, I spent the day with good friends. We talked about what to expect in the weeks left of living or, as it can be said, preparing for dying.

There is a mystery to this conversation as we do not know precisely when life will end. And there are signs the body gives us to understand that the time is drawing near. But then the mystery of when is near returns. There is peace that comes with increased sleep and transitioning, which begins the process of letting go. It is very much an internal process for the patient that we bear witness to only through observation. There is terminal restlessness, life review, breathing changes, and the last breath. This can take weeks or months.

Today, I was impacted by the courage it takes to be honest about living and dying. To face the journey, ask for what is needed, accept support, journey through sorrow and grief, and love and let go is a heart-changing process. I don’t believe that you can witness this and be unchanged.

Everyone who is living will also one day be dying. I hope that we can become more comfortable discussing dying and how to live and die well! If you are interested in this conversation, please get in touch with me to explore setting up a consultation visit with Advocacy Matters. We are happy to meet with you!

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Instructions for living a life:

PAY ATTENTION: The first was taught to us when we were children, but we did not all master it as children. In fact, I believe that in adult life, paying attention is a different task altogether. This is not about paying attention to completing something for someone else. This is about paying attention to notice or to be aware of what catches our senses or causes us to pause. This is about paying attention to the invitation to live life. This is an invitation to a unique and grand privilege and adventure.

BE ASTONISHED: I used to think that not much astonished me. Then I realized it was because I did not pay very close attention. When I began to be curious about things around me and pay closer attention, my astonishment grew exponentially. I stopped to watch an ant colony busy at work. I learned about my Mom’s moonflowers that bloom every evening, but each bloom lives only one evening. I paid attention to the daily healing of incisions following my knee replacement. So many things became truly astonishing when I stopped to pay attention.

TELL ABOUT IT: said this about Mary Oliver, “In her view, life was always awe-inspiring, but it was not always beautiful or easy.” The amazing thing is that Mary Oliver kept telling us about her living in poetry. We might do our telling in story or conversation, blogging or through journaling, music, or invitation to others to journey along with us, but living is about telling and sharing what you are noticing when you are paying attention and being astonished.

Go and live well my friends, live with a boldness to discover what is around you and share what astonishes you. For in your telling, you will also provoke others to want to live. ❤️ trish

 

How wide is our range?

I have grown to appreciate Henri Nouwen during my adult years. It’s hard to imagine. I have been an adult for so many years already! 🙂 As I read his reflection, it resonated with me as we journey through Lent and anticipate Easter Sunday. If we live in a culture that does not allow our full expression of feeling, how do we even grasp the reality of Good Friday and Easter?

I often consider children’s wide range of emotions in one day. Just imagine if we allowed our adult selves to do the same. What if we expressed the ache of our sorrow or grief and also celebrated the goodness felt in connection with those we love? What if, at the end of each day, we could confidently say I have expressed all the emotions I felt today, including fear, anger, and anxiety?

I am not saying every emotion felt should be expressed, but perhaps Henri Nouwen is onto something. If we expand our range, we will experience perhaps more mourning and sadness, but we will also experience more genuine dancing, delight, and joy! May it be so! ❤️trish

 

Caring for those who cared for us….

I attended a seminar this morning. It was good for many reasons. I appreciate that my Church hosts conversations and education about aging. We must recognize that everyone has a unique story and allow that to be how we approach “problem-solving.” in issues surrounding aging.

As someone who has worked in the field of serving an aging population for the last twenty years, may we never let the uncertainty, fear, and dynamics overshadow the fact that there are many good elements to be grateful for in getting older. Tonight, I want to name one: To care for those who once cared for us is one of Life’s highest honors. This does not always mean physical care. This may mean companionship or creating spaces for quality of life to be shared and enjoyed. It doesn’t always mean it is simple or without complications, but when we can reflect, it often brings us to a space of gratitude.

I hope that part of your story, whether caring for, anticipating, caring for, or having cared for, will provoke your heart to grow and strengthen in good ways. If this provokes pain and struggles, I trust you will find someone who can be present with you to process that.

Life is a gift, often with its own complications along the way, but may we always take the time to honor those who have invested in us and helped to shape the people we are today! ❤️trish

 

Celebrating Ellie Grace…

It’s hard to imagine that we learned of Ellie’s arrival 24 years ago. When we wrapped up our birthday Facetime call with her, my Mom said it so well: Ellie is delightful!

Ellie has a strong spirit and a sparkle in her eyes that provokes questions of curiosity. She often explores some adventure or paves some kind of pathway. Ellie moved to Colorado and established herself there, not with a temporary status but with a sense of permanence until she feels called away. She will call this home!

Ellie is the youngest of five, one of a big cousin group, and an aunt to four; she is also a granddaughter, daughter, niece, and friend. In these varied roles, she has learned to use her voice, listen well, struggle through disappointments, process anger, grow in faith, and always maintain a sense of humor.

I am so proud of you, Ellie, for continuing to grow and mature. You have demonstrated you know how to love others without losing yourself. You have practiced self-care and honor the journey you are on. I am so proud of you and grateful to be your Aunt and friend. I love you forever and always…❤️aunt trish

 

 

Extending invitation…

I appreciate Lent and the weeks before Palm Sunday, Maundy Thursday, Good Friday, and Easter. However, as these four services approach, my heart transitions to the days ahead.

I know that COVID changed many people’s rhythms, including church participation. During the last year of my multiple surgeries, I have come to appreciate live streaming, but I have recognized that worship with people differs from worship via live stream.

In the coming weeks, I want to invite people to join me for Worship during the various upcoming services. If you are able and looking for a place to worship, please come and be present with us. There is always room in my row. ❤️ There is something special about being in Church, especially in the coming weeks! I also think entering or reentering is easier with an invitation and knowing someone would be delighted to see you!

I hope you will also make a point to invite others to your faith community for this particular season.

May we grow in our ability to simply invite without agenda, expectation, or demand. Invite with an open heart and a desire to create a space for relationships to grow! ❤️ trish

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  • Palm Sunday, March 24 – Worship services at 9:30 am (English) and 11:00 am (bilingual English/Spanish) 514 Eastern Ave SE, Grand Rapids, MI,  49503
  • Maundy Thursday, March 28 – Soup, Bread, and Cup, 6 pm. Join us for an informal meal and worship experience commemorating Jesus’ last supper with his disciples. We will gather around tables in the Fellowship Hall to share a simple meal and receive the Lord’s Super together. Our time will include worship through scripture, prayer, and choral singing. Please indicate if you plan to attend and if you can help contribute to the meal.  Sign up to join us! www.signupgenius.com/go/20F054EA4A82CA75-48515427-soup
  • Good Friday Tenebrae Service, March 29 – Hosted by Sherman St. Church (1000 Sherman St. SE), 8 pm
  • Easter Sunday, March 31 – Worship services at 9:30 am (English) and 11:00 am (bilingual English/Spanish) 514 Eastern Ave SE, Grand Rapids, MI,  49503

 

 

The importance of the pause

I wish I could say I just do not understand what Stephen Covey is referring to here, but I totally get it. I get it because I have been that person who listens to reply instead of understand. I get it because I have also been conversing with people who did not seek to understand but felt it more important to be heard in their rapid reply.

To ensure I am a good listener and not a quick responder, I must practice daily discipline. I need to practice the PAUSE.  The pause gives me time to understand what has been shared and consider my words in response. It also allows my body language to communicate connection through eye contact and leaning in.

I hope to be a good listener in each conversation I engage in.

I hope to practice a thoughtful PAUSE that conveys connection and intention.

I hope to be a good responder in each conversation I share a response.

I hope you also practice this and are the receiver when you share your good thoughts and heart stories. ❤️ trish

 

Being kind to yourself

Today was a hard day. I am dealing with a pressure sore on my heel from being in the boot, and I struggled to maintain a good attitude for a part of the day. But as I took time to reflect, I was able to name that three weeks ago today, I had an excision of posterior heel spur, left Secondary Achilles tendon repair, left.

This process requires severing the Achilles, shaving the bone spur, debriding the tendon to healthy tissue, and anchoring the Achilles back into the heel bone.

When I read the context, three weeks doesn’t seem so long to have ups and downs. It brings perspective to me to be kind to myself and remember that healing takes time.

I wonder where you may need some grace for yourself. So often, we find grace for others easier than offering grace to ourselves. Perhaps today, you need to remind someone about being kind, or maybe you must be reminded to be kind to yourself. May we be generous with grace given and grace received. ❤️ trish