I would guess that many of you read that title and think of it as a mandate in how you treat others.
I invite you to add a few words to the be kind…
This has been a significant journey for me, and it remains a daily decision. I am training myself to consider this in every commitment I make. With each commitment I am learning to consider if it will make my day to busy, because allowing myself time at home each day is about being kind to myself. With each commitment to meet a friend or colleague at a restaurant, I consider how many meals will I be eating out in a row. Although easier, it is not kind to my big picture goals and objectives. How late I stay up, how I unwind, when I exercise and how I approach my to do list all factor in.
As I write this blog, I am struck by how I struggle with not wanting to appear as selfish. A significant portion of my definition of kind to myself is to ensure I am creating space to be giving my time, energy and resources away with a desire to contribute to someone’s hope, encouragement or life changing direction. Being kind to myself allows me to enjoy being kind to others. I remember how often in my 20’s and early 30’s, I was so busy with life that I did not understand kindness to myself or others. It is not that my actions did not appear kind, but often my actions were motivated more by what I longed to receive than what I was willing to give away.
And so, tonight I want to invite you to consider how you are kind to yourself in your daily routines and how that might look different. Have you learned to be a grateful person who simply says “Thank you” when you are complimented or affirmed? Are you someone who accepts the kindness someone brings to you?
“Be kind” use to feel like a simple request or command, but as I have come to understand kindness towards myself and others, I am amazed at the power that kindness holds. A word worth being curious about….