Reacting to reactions…

I was having a conversation with a friend this morning and I spoke the words….

Remember to be careful to not react to her reaction…

And then I started thinking about the words I had spoken…

I wonder how often we lose the intent of a conversation because we get sidetracked, reacting to a reaction…

I know of times when the conversation that began is very different than the conversation that ends. I can often pinpoint it back to a shift in the conversation when one of us reacted and the other reacted to the reaction…

It is a funny thing to write about….

It seems so obvious…

And yet, it is almost impulsive to react…

I am learning to hit my internal pause button when I feel myself reacting or reacting to a reaction…

I am learning that I can quickly pause and return my focus to the conversation as it was intended…

I have found it helpful to acknowledge that my reaction has taken us to a place we didn’t intend….can we back up and take a different road….

I want to be a good listener in the conversations I enter…Image

I want to listen with my whole being….

I have a business card by my phone that says….

Listen hard, it is an excellent gift…..

Go and listen well today….to your heart and the hearts of others! 

Author: trishborgdorff

I am on a life long journey to live with integrity, honesty, kindness and full of grace.

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