Choosing or settling…I would guess those of us who have lived a few years can name some seasons of our life where we can identify decisions we confidently, or not so confidently, chose and others where we settled. The circumstances around those decisions may have looked different for each of us, but ultimately, the feeling of choosing versus settling is two very different outcomes.
I wonder if you have been in a situation where someone has looked to you for direction as they make their own significant decisions? Have you considered what questions lean into conversations of choosing versus settling?
Consider one example you can share where you felt you settled and wish you had chosen a different direction.
Consider questions of the heart: What does your heart say about moving ahead?
- Is there fear expressed of approval or acceptance, or is success based on someone else’s expectations? This leans toward settling.
- Or is there a desire to meet the longing for a dream or desire to live into a skill set or relationship? This leans toward choosing.
- If you were going to decide based on what is best for you, how would you decide? This leans toward choosing.
I don’t believe that the conversation has to be within a 5-year window, as the quote suggests. Sometimes, I find myself reflecting on a day’s events, and I can name where I settled instead of making a choice. This is a great conversation topic, and I hope you will consider asking about it in your conversation circles. It can invite honest, transparent, and courageous conversations! ❤️ trish
