a long long time ago…

On August 1, 2003, Ted Boers and Trish Borgdorff opened Visiting Angels of West Michigan for the first time. That day set my heart in motion in a way I could not fully understand.

Ted and Jan were friends of mine from Sunshine Community Church. Ted, about 20 years my senior, was a very successful businessman, but more than that, he and Jan were people I admired and enjoyed as I watched them blend their faith with their daily lives.

We ventured into this 50/50 business partnership. A few years later, Ted told me this business was too “constant” for his personality, and I became the sole owner.  I am grateful for Ted, who took a risk on me as a business partner when I was young and just three years out of grad school.
The past 20+ years have been filled with goodness and a few really difficult situations. I am in awe of the generous spirit of so many caregivers who will give so much to ensure clients’ care and safety.

I am so grateful for those who have served with integrity and loved their clients and families with kindness and respect. The relationships built, the tenderness shared, and the generous giving in living and dying make every day a gift.

My heart swells with gratitude for those who have navigated the daily oversight and administrative tasks with me in the office. It takes a unique mix of compassion and organization, discernment and leadership, spontaneous spirit with structured strategy, and teamwork! I am so aware of each person’s different gifts and how that has given us the synergy to meet the needs of so many individuals and families. Working with the best staff is an honor!

And for all who have invited us into your homes, for the spaces we could bring support, companionship, respite, care, comfort, and hope, we thank you for entrusting us with your loved one or yourself!

The story of Visiting Angels of West Michigan began long ago when Ted and I committed to trying a new business. But Visiting Angels of West Michigan is about a community of people who have expanded the boundaries of my heart, challenged how I think and act, and invited me to live as a business owner with a firm conviction. This conviction is to leave every space we enter into with an abundance of kindness, respect, love, and peace, making every morning an adventure and every evening a space when I say Thank you, Lord, for your provision and protection over all who give and receive care.

There are to many stories I could tell and too many names to share. But if you have journeyed with us in some way or another, you will know you are. To each of you, I say Thank. you, because I have known you, I have been changed for good!

Here is to the next 10 years,

❤️ Trish

Just a few pictures….

 

 

 

Farewell to the CRC

I ended my time at Synod 2024 by reading a farewell to the CRC. I spoke with my pastor, and my sister and I worked together to crystalize the wording. It was a moment we had seen coming yet had never imagined being here. Those are the most unusual moments in your heart!

There was such clarity, so the sorrow was not in saying goodbye. The sorrow was more significant in that today’s Christian Reformed Church was no longer the Christian Reformed Church we had grown up in and come to love. In the future, the Church differed from the Church of the past. That seemed clear to everyone. The division centered around churches’ various positions on gender, sexuality, and marriage.

It was not about whether one approved or disapproved. It was about much bigger things. It was about whether Church discipline is implemented, if repentance is mandated, and whether Salvation is at risk.

To that end, I read the following. I share it here because it is an essential piece in the journey to my heart. It is also because my blog is my story for my nieces and nephews and their children and their children’s children.

Grateful to God for clarity and courage,

❤️trish

I hear God calling, and I have to obey

This is an odd blog title for me. I don’t often start with something like that. But these words are not mine; they have guided me in the last weeks.

As I prepared for Synod 2024 in the Christian Reformed Church, I knew there would be difficult conversations. If they were only difficult, I would be okay, but they had the potential to be so much more than difficult. They had the potential to be divisive.

I prayed for clarity for the week of Synod. I prayed that God would bring peace to my heart and confidence in knowing where He was calling me to stand for His Church.

As the week started, I was overwhelmed by the unfolding clarity. I went to a meal with my Mom on Saturday night (we started Friday morning) and shared with her, “I don’t think there is room for “us” (our family, our affirming Churches, those who believe differently than the majority group) in this denomination anymore. The box seems so small and the pathway so narrow.” We wept together.

Tonight, I read this article:https://www.crcna.org/news-and-events/news/end-era-passing-peter-borgdorff

I was struck by these words, spoken at my Dad’s funeral by Joel Boot.

“It was hard and often painful work, but he did it willingly. He did it because he told me right at the start, ‘I hear God calling, and I have to obey’.’”

I hear God calling, and I have to obey. This guided me the week of Synod and has guided the Churches that took a stand this year at Synod. We did not stand in rebellion. We do not need discipline in this matter. We stood for God’s call. I do not understand what to do when God’s call conflicts between two groups of people. I will remain faithful to God’s calling and trust know that He will always be faithful to me!

 

 

 

Time to catch up on my blogging…

I have been writing, even though I have not posted blogs. In some ways, I am surprised to see that my last posted blog was on June 8th. In the previous 21 days, I have missed writing tributes to my sisters Suzi and Jonna, my nieces and nephews, Hannah, Janneke, Matt., Elle, Lauren and Andrew.

I will be posting a number of posts in the coming days. They will reflect some of what the last three weeks have held. I participated as a delegate in our Christian Reformed Church Synod and it was a painful but clarifying process. It brought up so much about how do we live respectfully together in spaces where we see things so differently.

I have missed writing. I have missed the rhythm of ending my day in reflection of both the goodness and the struggles of living, but in the end, knowing God holds us all in his tender care! ❤️ trish

Happy 21st Peter Henry

21 years ago, you entered our lives, and we had no idea how you would change our lives in such beautiful ways. Your gentle and steady presence is always welcome. Your curiosity and willingness to engage in questions and conversation make time spent with you enjoyable and never boring. It is fun to hear you remember and reflect, and even better to hear you dream and look ahead!

How can we not post some of our favorite pictures…you bring joy and goodness to everyone you encounter. You have a willing spirit, a good head on your shoulders, a solid heart in your soul, and a willingness to work hard! I am proud of you! I love you and believe that good things will continue to come your way. Dare to risk, be generous with your time and resources, and explore outside your comfort zone.

I love you, Peter, and am so proud of you! ❤️ aunt trish


honest reflections on the journey to my heart day one…

Today, I was driving and thinking about why I am struggling to blog. As I worked some of it through in my mind and heart, I realized that when I am processing deeper areas in my life, my thoughts don’t feel very orderly when I put them on paper.

The Journey Is More Important Than The DestinationSo, I will post some of my thoughts on my blog this week that are not refined and finished. They are the thoughts of the journey to my heart.

I have a big week coming up. I will be a delegate to the Christian Reformed Church Synod. I am unsure what to write about this, but I know the Church feels very complicated to me.

Synod has been a part of my life all my years, as my Dad was significantly involved in CRC leadership. Over the years, somehow, when they labored together, the group of people who came to the floor of Synod, did the work of the Church, and God was glorified. Not everyone was happy, difficulties were present, and conflict was real, but the Church persevered together.

Many people find the church complicated and unsafe and have suffered harm from it. I want to be part of a faith community that offers invitation, healing, and wholeness to all of God’s children.

In my spiritual journey, I have learned that God loves me so much that He will speak to me about my life, and He loves you so much that He will speak to you about yours. But God will not tell me what you need to hear. If God is speaking to me about you, then my job is to pray for God to convict your heart, not to instill the fear of God into you. For when I tell you what God said about how you must live, I believe that borders on spiritual abuse.

May my lifestyle invite curiosity about my faith, and may I live the Gospel in ways that bring Hope to the hopeless…

I think that is enough for now. This feels like a lot to put into writing, but it is the journey to my heart.

I love God, I love the Church, and I love People!

At the end of the day, I believe it is all in God’s hands. ❤️ trish

Messy and Holy Work…

I have considered this blog since receiving our Church announcements last week. Something new in them caused me to pause and feel deep gratitude for the brave people in my faith community!

We have a vision statement that says we are moving with the Spirit in the messy and holy work of…(see below)

We recognize that life is messy and holy. We are called to live our messy and holy lives honestly and authentically. It takes a lot of courage and trusting God to name the messy, hard, confusing, and uncertain.

In our announcements, we found this:

Please keep (name of the father), (name of the mother), and their children in your prayers. Their family is currently going through a divorce, and it has been a traumatic experience for all of them. The father and two children intend to remain members at Eastern Ave. CRC and ask for your support, patience, and understanding as they face an uncertain future.

I am so grateful that my Church is a place that invites our weekday selves into worship on Sunday.

I am grateful that my Church embraces our pain and encourages us to name the pain we carry while it is painful and before it is healed!

I am grateful for a community of faith that will enter into the messy and holy work together, holding each other up, weeping together when we weep, and celebrating when we are invited to celebrate.

I hope you will also find a faith community of people joining you in the holy messy, because I do believe that living true to what your heart is holding and sharing that in safe spaces, is one of the best ways to live!

Just think how different life could be….give it a try today!

❤️trish

Redirection is a gift

I wonder if you have experienced the power of seasons—not the four seasons but seasons of relationships. When I thought of my friendships as a season in my life, I could celebrate them much more fully!

Sometimes, a friendship “ended” due to life circumstances, and I felt a profound loss. Sometimes, life shifted in a way that friendships just drifted out of my life. Sometimes, I could explain why, and others, to this day, I can’t quite put words to why.

In my 20s and 30s, I would have labeled these losses as rejection. I could not figureMay be an image of text that says 'IF IT COMES, LET IT COME. IF IT GOES, LET IT GO.ITS IT'S GO. NOT REJECTION. IT'S S REDIRECTION' out why this happened. However, in some honest reflection, I began to understand that life events cause transitions. When my friends were getting married and having kids, and I remained single, perhaps it was more about transitions than rejection! Perhaps there were seasons to friendships that, instead of being grieved, can be marked and remembered as memorable and good!

Tonight, I read this quote! I was drawn to:

IF IT COMES, LET IT COME.

IF IT GOES, LET IT GO.

Plugins categorized as redirection | Page 2 of 4 | WordPress.orgThere is something so fluid about living with the ability to let people, thoughts, and life come and stay and then go.

And perhaps the most important last step in releasing and letting go is to give the releasing the right name…not rejection, but try on transition or redirection. I think it is healthy to have a life that has regular redirection. It is not always welcome, but do not cling to what must be released.  Embrace the redirection! ❤️ trish

The Love weapon

Meet anger with…Sympathy

Contempt with…Compassion

Cruelty with…Kindness

Greet grimaces with…smiles

Forgive and…forget about finding fault

Love is….the weapon of the future!

I wonder if you have your love weapon ready to go for the week? Are you prepared to engage those you meet in a way that invites them to pause and wonder about how you are engaging them…

May others experience your Love weapon today!  ❤️trish

A few good words go a long way…

Today, we drove to Chicago and back. It was worth every minute on the road to celebrate Ryan’s graduation from Grad School! Not only did he graduate with honors from the Harris School of Public Policy at the University of Chicago, but he also turned 26 on Thursday. I am a very proud aunt.

Today, his partner and dear Hannah suggested we offer Ryan good words to celebrate his accomplishments.  I love nothing more than the offering of words, affirming the personality, character, giftedness, and impact of Ryan’s life on those he loves.

Here is one snippet of what we were so blessed to celebrate tonight!

I invite you to share the gift of giving and receiving words when you gather together. We have never regretted engaging in this activity. Happy 26th and Happy graduation, Ryan! I am so proud of you, and I love you so much! I will be waiting with you as you enter into the next chapter! Offered to you with my whole heart! ❤️ aunt trish