I wonder if you have experienced the power of seasons—not the four seasons but seasons of relationships. When I thought of my friendships as a season in my life, I could celebrate them much more fully!
Sometimes, a friendship “ended” due to life circumstances, and I felt a profound loss. Sometimes, life shifted in a way that friendships just drifted out of my life. Sometimes, I could explain why, and others, to this day, I can’t quite put words to why.
In my 20s and 30s, I would have labeled these losses as rejection. I could not figure
out why this happened. However, in some honest reflection, I began to understand that life events cause transitions. When my friends were getting married and having kids, and I remained single, perhaps it was more about transitions than rejection! Perhaps there were seasons to friendships that, instead of being grieved, can be marked and remembered as memorable and good!
Tonight, I read this quote! I was drawn to:
IF IT COMES, LET IT COME.
IF IT GOES, LET IT GO.
There is something so fluid about living with the ability to let people, thoughts, and life come and stay and then go.
And perhaps the most important last step in releasing and letting go is to give the releasing the right name…not rejection, but try on transition or redirection. I think it is healthy to have a life that has regular redirection. It is not always welcome, but do not cling to what must be released. Embrace the redirection! ❤️ trish
